Reply to being naughty, lies

But really come on, it is totally necessary to lie to our kids. Those who say you shouldn't are either not parents or if they are and say they have never done it - are lying! All parents lie to their kids, we do it to protect them, to save their feelings and to make this crappy world seem a better place. Small children in particular simply cannot process such things as financial problems, or the fact their parents are on the brink of divorce, so we sprinkle some sugar on so it is easier on them. Obviously we don't want to wrap them up in cotton wool and make them think they live in a fantasy land, but what's the hurt in softening the disappointment of the real world? God, if we never lied to them they would end up a gibbering reck before they even reach adulthood! As long as the motive for lying to your child is a loving one then you are doing what every loving parent would do for their child, looking out for them and protecting them as much as you possibly can, where is the harm in that?
Posted by zoe at 17:01 0 comments
Monday, 9 March 2009http://http//beingnaughty.blogspot.com/

I can't agree more, you are either a very wise and intelligent young woman or a mother yourself. I'm a mum of four, and certainly tell lies to the youngest. It's never outright lies for my own glorification it is simply to protect and kurb disappointments. As you quite rightly say we don't want to burden our children before they are ready to handle some of the awful things about the world. As they grow up we can gradually inroduce them to the bad things of the world when we feel they are emotionally ready to handle it. Sometimes it is taken out of hands and that is something we have to deal with as and when it happens. We all lie to protect others. Who would want to tell someone the awful things that had been said about them? I know of those who have felt it their 'moral' duty to inform someone that they are the subject of malicious gossip, which had a massive knock on effect and caused utter devastation to many. If we knew the truth about everything we would all be jibbering wrecks, not just the kids. Little white lies are sometimes one's only option.